Secrets. Everybody has them. But, is that really okay? Are all secrets bad?
Recently, in one of our weekly staff meetings at New Song Church, I challenged our leadership team to beware of secrets. I talked about how secrets can be unhealthy for us, and can also lead to unhealthy relationships with others.
Think about it for a minute: go through the inventory of secrets that you’ve hidden in the annals of your heart and mind. Now, I’m not talking about what you’re getting someone for their birthday, or the intimate secrets that are shared between a husband and wife. I’m talking about those indiscretions from your past that you wish you could erase-those things that you hope and pray no one ever finds out about. Those things that you cover-up, at all costs, even when it means being dishonest.
Yeah, those things. We’ve all got them, and we all keep a tight lock on the closet door that contains all of the skeletons of our past, to ensure that no bones fall out unexpectedly. The truth is, most of us tremble at the thought of our deep, dark secrets being exposed. Our secrets can cause us to live in fear, which robs us of the ability to truly love and be loved.
Lately, I’ve been studying the book of Romans. Listen to what the Apostle Paul says about our secrets: “And this is the message I proclaim–that the day is coming when God, through Christ Jesus, will judge everyone’s secret life.” (Romans 2:16 NLT). Paul tells us that one day, God will judge everything that we have done in secret, or tried to keep secret. Thankfully, for the Believer, he will do this “through Christ Jesus”, whose grace cover’s all of our indiscretions, if we are faithful to confess them and repent. But still, one day we will all stand before a Holy God and give an account for all of our secrets. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather get them out on earth first…just sayin’.
Quite often, our secrets keep us from connecting to God at a deeper level. God values authenticity because after all, he knows everything anyway. Being a follower of Jesus means being transparent with God and one another, which allows us to live an authentic life. In fact, for this very reason, one of our core values at New Song Church is the word REAL. We believe that in order to grow in our walk with God we must value authenticity in all of our relationships.
How are your relationships? Are they healthy and successful? Are they authentic? If you’re not sure, or you answer “No”, then maybe it’s time to take an inventory of all those nasty little secrets and begin the process of sorting through them to find out which ones need to be brought into the light. Now, I’m not suggesting that you start airing out everyone elses’s secrets-that’s gossip. I am suggesting, however, that maybe it’s time to get alone with God and ask, “Are my secrets keeping me from having healthy, successful, authentic relationships?” More than likely, they are.
Think About It.